Being part of a mission team over the past 10+ years has been one of the best and hardest things I’ve ever done. But, most things worth doing are hard and the fact that we’ve had challenges can’t be traced back to our specific personalities (though, my teammates may disagree!). Those difficulties existed simply because doing life in community, any real community, is just plain hard.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about how our mission team here in Montepuez has somehow survived a lot of change. Over the first few years this little community experienced both additions (new baby boys and girls!) and subtractions (half of the families moved on to other places). Then in more recent years, we’ve experienced different changes: more foreigners settled in the area and certain relationships with Mozambicans blossomed into deep friendships. It was as if our little community was a tree that survived a season of pruning and vertical growth and was now spreading wide its branches to provide shade for and include more and more people.
Communities
are always in a state of change.
The book Wicked
offers this provocative assessment of communities:
“Perhaps
every accidental cluster of people has a short period of grace, in between the
initial shyness and prejudice on the one hand and eventual repugnance and
betrayal on the other.” (pg. 146)
While
the above quote expresses a pretty cynical view of the world, truth can
be mined in its unflinching analysis: There is a sweet spot in the life of
community, one marked by grace. But, it
will not last. All communities, like the
people who found them, experience life cycles – they form together, they
function for a time, and then they fail or fade out.
So,
trying to do life in community over the long haul means pushing back against
the natural forces of entropy. It means
not giving in to the tendencies of decline and death. And ultimately it comes down to intentionally
choosing to inject life and grace into a given group.
But,
what does grace like this look like? How can we offer grace to those who live
in community with us and cultivate an endurance that will help that group make
it over the long haul?
The
other day I stood nearby, eavesdropping on a group of foreigners (new expats
living in Mozambique) attempting to converse with a woman with limited English. They pointed at something the children
were doing and struggled to find the Portuguese word for ‘funny.’ The right word popped into my mind, ‘engraçado,’ and
for the first time I realized that stuck square in the middle of the word for
funny or humorous is the word graça (or grace). So, in Portuguese, grace is
literally found in what is funny.
Humor
can be defined by grace and can be a means for injecting grace and life into a
community.
Now,
in the interest of full disclosure, I must mention Rachel’s assessment that I
have a vested interest in proving this hypothesis. So, I confess that I'm biased and its possible that I’m using word games to lend credibility to my conviction that irony is a sign of
God at work. But, seeing humor as an agent of grace jives with my observations
that some of the funniest people I know have been the most gracious.
I find hope and courage in the belief that grace is often found in the middle of what makes us laugh.
I find hope and courage in the belief that grace is often found in the middle of what makes us laugh.
So,
if I had to share one piece of advice about how communities can beat the cycle,
go against the flow, and thrive over the long haul, it would be this: Be intentional about the deadly serious work of not taking yourself too seriously and laugh freely with each other.
May
our communities have long lives - lives full of joy and grace.
Grace
and Peace,
Alan
(thanks to Ashley Reeves taking the team photos - especially the funny one!)
(thanks to Ashley Reeves taking the team photos - especially the funny one!)